A Tale of Two Endings?

By Nigel Winder, Scripture Union NZ

Max and Liz are both ten years old and are good friends at school. They both come from Christian homes where they are encouraged in their relationship with God and church attendance.

When Max goes to church with his family on Sunday morning, his parents are greeted at the door and given that week’s bulletin. Max is ignored but heads off into the kid’s church hall where the music is pumping and 50 other kids are already chasing a large ball around the room. After 10 minutes, a biscuit and drink, the music team crank up the decibels and the kids shout and dance and praise God with all their might. The children take a well-earned seat as the lights are dimed and a professional and biblically sound DVD is shown with that week’s animated Bible Story. Afterwards they are directed to a variety of amazing art and craft activities to choose from at stations around the hall. Max loves the construction stuff and spends the next half hour there until the music starts up for the final round of fun and upbeat songs. By the time the songs are finished his parents are waiting to take him home. His parents ask him how it was and Max says he has had fun showing them his craft handiwork.

Liz on entering her church has her hand vigorously shaken by one of her friends helping their parents on door duty. Mr Marshall says how nice it is to see her and asks her about her ballet exam she has just sat. He passes her a fist full of Mints in a secret handshake. Liz finds a seat with her parents. Mrs Hansen (now in her 90’s) turns in her seat and asks Liz how those nasty girls have been at school. She reassures Liz that she is still praying about it for her. The worship team get up and the kids are invited to come up and join them. Liz does so, grabbing a shaker from the available box of instruments. While not understanding the words in some of the older songs, she can see very plainly from the front just how much they mean to some of the people in church as they close their eyes (some with tears) and raise their hands. She giggles to herself as some of the adults muck up the action songs looking quite uncoordinated, but they are laughing and enjoying praising God.

During share time Liz is riveted to her seat as Mr Simpson shares how painful it has been since losing his wife. He thanks the church for all their wonderful support and says he wouldn’t have got through without their love and God’s peace. Liz wonders how he can still say he loves God after being through such a sad time. She decides she will send him a nice card with muffins when she gets home. Liz likes the preacher’s sermon because he uses lots of stories and pictures. Sometimes he brings in props or gets the kids to act something out for him. Whenever he uses big words he explains them and reminds even the kids how they can apply the truths he is sharing. Liz is allowed to hop down on the floor and doodle while she listens. In the discussion time after the sermon Liz gets to ask some questions and hear what others have been challenged or encouraged by. It always amazes her how everyone seems to get something slightly different out of the same sermon. Others seem so interested in what she is thinking and she feels comfortable enough to say a short prayer thanking God. Even a couple of 5 year olds who really look up to her follow her lead and say a sentence prayer too. After the “Amen” she looks up and wonders why some of the adults are wiping their eyes. During communion it is clearly explained what it all means and why they share it as a church family. She puts some of her pocket money in the collection and watches as others do the same.

After the service while the adults are having their cuppa she plays with some friends and the younger kids in the hall. Some older teenagers and adults join in. On the way home she and her parents chat about the service, testimonies and sermon. They discuss some ways they could serve and encourage others in the church as a family. Liz shares about the card she wants to send to Mr Simpson.

I wonder how will these two tales will end?

Who do you think will still be going to church when they are an adult?

Where is the deeper and richer faith formation happening?

“…the frequent and regular cross-generational opportunities for worship, learning, outreach, service and fellowship offer distinctive spiritual benefits and blessings.” (Intergenerational Christian Formation – Bringing the whole church together in ministry, community and worship. Holly Catterton Allen and Christine Lawton Ross.)

Where do you see the benefits of intentional intergenerational faith formation happening at your church on Sunday morning and the subsequent growing of deeper relationships?


  1. Absolutely brilliant. Thanks Nigel. What a thought provoking article. It would be wonderful if every leader in every church around New Zealand got to read this and discuss it as a team.


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